Here at our daughter’s house I’ve just read a book she has found invaluable, ‘Boundaries’ by H Cloud and J Townsend. Although it’s very American and accordingly I found the style a bit irritating, it makes some very pertinent and, to my mind, important points.
This quotation chimes in so well with the book’s positive, practical message.
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it is so true you should never have to prove yourself to anyone but yourself :yes:
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I have never read a self-help, motivational, perspectives genre style book … maybe I should.
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No, I normally give them a very wide berth 8| …. but in this case it has some constructive comments about relationships which are often ignored, neglected or not known about.
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A lot of truth in that quote.
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Interesting quote and well worth a ponder…. :yes: It is a wonderful thing to sometimes realise one doesn’t have to justify oneself for somebody else’s ‘attitude’… Bizarrely I am thinking of Pontius Pilate?? when he said ‘I have said what I have said’ and sometimes think of that when somebody makes me feel all squirmy and as if I have to justify myself….
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Submerging ourselves to others will, being suborned, would fit that quote. Many a true word…. Many examples of it are to be found, some less visible than others.
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Some can be very subtle. Spoiler alerts are sometimes useful!
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What kind of spoiler alerts would you suggest?
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I suspect it’s very common in relationships for both men and women, to find themselves in a one which makes one person anxious to please, for whatever reason – and the other person may well enjoy the power that it gives them, thus creating a vicious circle. This kind of ‘saying’ encourages a re-think about the power-play at work in the relationship, and may result in changes in attitude, in which case the one who is profiting from such a psychological game may well find his/her ‘fun’ is spoilt. Hence it becomes a ‘spoiler alert’.
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Some anthropological observation might be interest in this context.
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This particularly applies to people who constantly criticise you. You don’t have to prove yourself to those people. The only person you need to prove yourself to is – yourself.
A good quote to remember. Thanks for the reminder. 😀 x
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It’s easy sometimes to find we’ve slid into that sort of mindset without really noticing: this helps to remind us that we don’t have to go along with the negative opinions of others, as you so rightly say.
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That is an excellent quote.xxx
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:yes: :wave:
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I think it means the other person has assessed your worth and possibly made a big mistake……………
We are all made in the image of God so there are no excuses except for those who don’t know it.
My son is a GP ; I encourage him to go to church. He answered that he feels a hypocrite when he goes.
I reminded him that he is the hands of God!
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but does he believe it?
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I don’t know but he didn’t contradict me.
I once told a retired ambulance driver the same thing !
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