On Sunday it was my turn to teach the children in their separate room. A young woman whom I know very well and who has been involved with the church for several years, came into the room too with her toddler.
She seldom comes to church these days because toddler, a delightful little girl, is very demanding …
… and she was. I was doing the story of Jesus in the desert, and I’d brought over some sand and some animals for the story, and some little spades and forks for the small fry to play with the sand.
That was the idea, anyway.
Except that little Toddler had quite other ideas. She wanted the spade. And that one. And that one. And all the animals. I was sharing these things out, but oh no, she wasn’t having that. She wanted it ALL. She snatched a spade from another child – which I firmly took out of her hand and gave back – then when other children got some of the animals, she screamed the place down in a rage and wouldn’t stop.
I wouldn’t give in to her, although her Mum clearly expected me to.
In the end I told her if she was quiet she could have her own spade, not someone else’s. She continued to scream. I went back to trying to talk to the other children, despite the stiff competition 8|
Eventually, when Mum realised I was going to be nasty and not give in, she took Toddler out.
Ahem …. :>>
Afterwards, Toddler’s Dad said ‘oh, we have to give her everything she wants. Otherwise she just screams.’
I’ve talked to them in the past about all children needing boundaries, and the importance of saying no and meaning it, and about being consistent. I tried again after the service on Sunday, but fear it will have as much effect as digging a hole with a chocolate spade.
They are making a rod for their own backs, unfortunately :crazy:
Any ideas, out there, as to alternative ways of handling this?