One of the first things that a good ‘listening skills’ course will teach, is precisely that we need to stop thinking about how we’re going to answer, and instead pay full attention to the speaker – not just their words but their body language, their pauses, their emotions and the things they appear not to be saying.
We could do with a lot more of that skill in our society. Being listened to can be very healing.
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It might reduce levels of frustration, just for starters.
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Indeed, and pave the way for all sorts of other things – better relationships included.
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Very true indeed… and the older I get the more I recognise that… and yes… it is very healing to be heard and can be extremely frustrating not to be :yes:
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True as true :**:
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I totally agree. I have known people who start their answer before you have finished the sentence and completely misinterpret what you are saying. Being ‘heard’ is something we all need too. Good reminder Gilly :yes: xxx
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Yes indeed … you can have barely started your sentence and you get interrupted … and then there’s that aggravating conversation where you try and get a word in edgeways in order to explain that what the other person is talking about, isn’t what you meant!!! :>
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Basically, a listener has to read between the lines, be attentive and not self-centred. This is a rare skill.
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Yes, exactly – and one we could all develop more, I believe :yes:
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Yes, we do have to listen and really hear what people have to say.xxx
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I have to ‘pay mind’ to it … otherwise it’s all too easy to slide into bad habits!!
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Very apt observation….! One needs to ‘listen’…and not merely ‘hear’….;)
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Something you know a lot about 😉 hugs!
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Have to admit….:yes: ;)xx
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:wave:
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Listening properly is a skill.
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And too few people develop it 😦
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So true.
A member of my clan is terrible for not listening, by which I mean they hear what they think you were trying to say rather than listen to the actual words – drives us all mad!
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Grrrrrrrrr :>
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Couldn’t agree more 🙂
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:yes:
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