MEGAN, JEREMY AND RUNAWAY CHILDREN

So they have been tracked down in Bourdeaux, and she is coming home to her frantic family, and he is in custody for abducting a minor.

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There are so many questions about this case, and they are not for me to answer. But it does leave me with another question.

Given the fact that it has been front-page news for days, and that police in two countries have been searching … what about all the other children who run away from home? Why so much time, money, energy and coverage on this one case, when there are far more desperate scenarios in this country all the time? Where is the press interest in those youngsters?

That’s what I want to know.

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52 thoughts on “MEGAN, JEREMY AND RUNAWAY CHILDREN

  1. Sorry I hope that I have not made my views clear.
    She has gone willingly to France
    He has gone to France with her. Maybe he has abducted her.
    Which part of this is not wrong?????

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    1. I’m not sure of the point you’re making, Buddy, or who you feel you are arguing with – :??:

      Yes, it appears she went willingly.
      Yes, he went with her.
      If she went willingly I can’t see how that is an abduction.

      They both did something they knew to be wrong, but clearly didn’t care too much about that side of it.

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  2. It should be kept in the public eye until he is taken on the back of a cart to Ludgate Hill. Perhaps Parliament could debate, seriously, a more strict and meaningful punishment for this type of awful crime ……and yes it IS a crime.
    He has done an awful thing and he must not be allowed to hide behind love.
    Young children reach an age when they become responsible (in law) for their actions. Miss Stammers is well past that age so she should be punished also. It is insufficient to say that they both will carry their shame for life. Love? Neither has been there. Already there will be sniggers and dirty jokes in the very schoolyard where they both planned their wicked wicked deeds. The gravity of the affair is forgotten there already
    Denise

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  3. Is it paedophilia?She looks well developed.I thought paedophiles liked children undeveloped bodily,,
    Anyway,it’s a good story for the press.She was probably testing the boundaries and he could not stand the pressure…he must not be suited to being with young girls..
    I feel truly sorry for his wife

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    1. I don’t think it’s paedophilia. He’s obviously very confused emotionally. I think David John is nearer the mark when he says that love can be a form of madness. Even so, he had responsibilities and crossed the teacher/pupil line – which is immoral as well as irresponsible.

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      1. Oh, I am sure there is training – but he was determined to do this. The early reports make it sound as if they both believe they are really in love. LIke you, I feel immensely sorry for his poor wife.

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      2. It’s a conundrum, isn’t it. If we say they were mad then we have to say that they aren’t able to take any responsibility for what happened. Clearly, it wasn’t that sort of madness.

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      3. I disagree.There are grades of madness.They are not psychotic enough to evade responsibility but he was out of normal control,tempted by a vision, an imaginary life with her.Caught up in a fantasy.He may be mad in the usual sense as well but we don’t know.

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      4. Oh,of course not.Did you read the novel by Zoe Heller on this subject?It was made into a film starring Judi Dench…. and one could see how it can happen…can’t recall the name of the novel…really good

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      5. Notes on a Scandal. It’s been going on for ever, and always will, human nature being what it is. But schools have to take stringent precautions – this will cause a huge hiatus in Megan’s education, and of course Jeremy will never teach again.

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    1. Yes, the media like the titillation and know that it will jack up the number of readers and watchers. While we are looking their way, another 10 children run away and aren’t noticed.

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  4. They went to France. He has broken British Law has he not? She is culpable by going willingly is she not?
    Grieving parents,well maybe.Why does the whole issue seem so right to some? We must not apply our high ideals to a truly disgusting episode. Come down on all concerned very hard and widen the net to include family and friends in a meaningful investigation.
    Denise

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    1. The trouble is that because people’s sentiments vary so widely, it is not possible to create a system which deals with such situations in an honest, fair and responsible way. Honesty is so often the first to fall victim to media spin and hype. We’re hamstrung with some woolly values!

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  5. It is scandalous the teacher’s way….even if he does want to be with her he is aware of her age and should have waited till she turned 16.

    There was a TV program (or part of the news) about kids that have run away and it transpires from those they have caught up with that they had been in touch with childline and other services but nothing was done.

    P xx

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  6. Ask men teachers in girls schools. Teenage children are at the cusp of adulthood and need to test the edges of behavior.A friends left a school because of the pressure from young girls ‘trying him out’;we must have sympathy for these two people,the press should leave them alone.The hurt from all this will stay with this couple for the remainder of their lives. To them this is love at its best, for those of us who have been in love and perhaps still are I ask you to remember the glorious insanity of this condition. And yes remember all those other cases which do not attract such publicity.

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    1. Desire for affection …. longing to feel special … infatuation … so many emotions going on. I feel sorry for them too, but the media should not pretend that the responsibility is only one person’s. Megan too is responsible for the anxiety she has caused her family. But then, who’s perfect?

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      1. Gillyk

        You are quite right. Megan is a woman she wanted this as much as Jeremy in such matters age matters little except for the law.I am surprised how viscious are some on the blog.I am do not protest Christianity ,those who do should recall their creed. In a few days we shall all have forgotten this episode which has nothing to do with us, apart from trying to prevent such happening again. How many will do anything ? For God’s sake leave them alone (as we are asking the papers to do)

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    1. Well, I’m glad that they did cover it because it has meant that they’ve been found and the sorting out is about to begin … but our media make me tear my hair out :crazy:

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  7. yes there are a lot of unanswered questions with this one. The teacher not only risked his marriage, but also his whole career. I think Megan will deny any abduction took place, but I guess you have to wonder what was missing in her young life to make her want to run away with a so much older man.

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  8. I couldn’t agree more Gilly, our media has lost the plot long ago. At least this story drove the “Pleb” fiasco off the headlines….

    When I was a social worker I often met with parents who had missing children, many who had been missing for years, some as young as 15, it was totally heartbreaking, they have no closure and eternal hope…and no lives to speak of. I was often in tears listening to them. Much more needs to be done.xxxxx

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  9. Me too gilly. I just think this was a case of a teenager seeking attention and possibly a paedophile willing to risk his marriage for a fling with a young girl. Why it was such a profile case i dont know.xx

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  10. I guess you have thought through the answer to your question. There is a UK scandal/moral interest in this particular case. A teacher.

    The term abduction is a legal device in this case for the purpose of pursuing the two people involved.

    Like other commenters, I am glad there was a device and a means by which to track down the pair, and furthermore, I am pleased it was used.

    There will be more information coming to light in due course, some of it may well be in the best media story telling traditions.

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    1. Yes indeed. But there are so many imponderables. Yes it was totally wrong for a married teacher in a position of trust to start a relationship like this. But it’s not just black and white – when I was at school there were plenty of 15 year olds who were knowing little madams and knew exactly what they were doing! I am not suggesting that Megan was like this, but although she is a minor, at 15 you are perfectly capable of knowing what you’re doing … :??:

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      1. I spoke with Daughter about this case and her take was that anybody as young as 15 is going to believe and be taken in by what adults tell them, and that they don’t know what’s good for them! She thinks in a few years time Megan will look back with horror at her going off with a man twice her age.

        Then again I know somebody who went off with a man twice her age when she was about 17 but she said it did her a world of good because her own family was a mess and this older man provided her with stability and security!

        I remember reading about development of children and that the brain has not fully developed a real awareness of other peoples’ needs and rights as human beings till about TWENTY FIVE – which is why youngsters can be so utterly reckless and why 25% of people under the age of 25 who drive will write off a car which is why insuring them is so expensive.

        So any youngster as young as 15 is still pretty much 100% self-motivated and unable to truly appreciate other people and whilst seeming to be very knowing and mature, they don’t appreciate the true impact of what they do – they can’t – they don’t have the brain development. Hence young men stabbing and killing people – they do not appreciate the hugeness of what they are doing.

        I wonder if the massive media coverage in some small way is also in a way sending out a message to men who take young girls off… that they will be brought to book????

        Yes… it is all very complicated!

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      2. Excellent points :yes: Do any of us, I wonder, ever know in advance what the results of our decisions will be in the future?

        My brother has done a lot of work on how the brain learns, as part of his ‘evidence-based teaching’ project, and he bears out what you say, that the brain is still developing all through teenagerhood. It raises the whole big question of responsibility, and how much young people can manage, especially if they are going through the whole ‘not-listening-to-parents’ thing … 🙄

        Very good comment, that the coverage may well be sending that message …

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  11. Good question Gilly. This is just one of many cases.
    My friend works for a charity called Railway Children (railwaychildren.org.uk) and they work with children in the UK and overseas who have run away from home. It’s a widespread problem and they often fall under the radar.
    Thanks for reminding us of these tragic cases. x

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    1. It’s awful, isn’t it. My heart breaks for children who don’t have what they need. There are so many good organisations doing brilliant work with them, all over the world. But what makes me cross is the media’s neglect – they are only interested in the Megan case because it has a sexual element to it!

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