I HAVE LEARNED … Wisdom via Paul Coelho

” I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned that no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down are the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry.

I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned that maturity had more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you.

I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while.

I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.

I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.”

Or, ‘I have learned, in whatever state I find myself, to be content’. (Another Paul, the Apostle)


(with thanks to Roshni. It’s on Coelho’s blog but not attributed to him: he says he found it on the internet. Whatever, it’s full of insight!)


23 thoughts on “I HAVE LEARNED … Wisdom via Paul Coelho

  1. That’s wonderful….

    I think I’ve read many of his books…if it’s the author…my favourite was about a guy who walks into a village and offers i million to the villagers if they kill one of their own…..brilliant book!xxxx


    1. It’s sometimes fun to find somebody has articulated such things – and many of us nod our heads, figuratively!

      I would love to translate these and try them in another culture, to see how much is the same, and what would be different 🙄


      1. It can be done, but it is best that you understand the cultural nuance a little, at least, and sufficient of the language/s you manipulate for the purpose. The odd bit of tweaking could be vital. 🙂


      2. Some of them read almost like idioms, and the Hausa language is very rich in those. Sometimes translating something brings out its meaning even more clearly, rather than obscuring it. I think they would have a lot of fun discussing them! I’ve translated fairy tales into Hausa and they are perfect for the culture!


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