Well now. What will happen next, I wonder?? While we were away, the ‘paddock team’ went into what’s going to be the community garden, to continue working on preparing the ground for people to grow stuff. And … they replaced the fence gate, that the neighbour keeps breaking through, with a metal gate that locks. On our side.

The last time it was the diocese who tried to replace the broken gate, but they met such aggressive opposition they had to give up. This time it seems to have been done with no reaction.

But is it only a matter of time??? 🙄 Meanwhile, it’s all gone quiet …

Now our 90 year old, who has been a cause of increasing concern for some months. Cecile lives on her own but spends a lot of time down at the local pub … she has been coping until recently, when people began finding her out in the street at night, in the ice and cold with no coat and no idea where she is. There have been all sorts of problems, not least of front-door keys: one friend had to get a ladder and climb in through a window last week, and found the key after a lengthy search, in the microwave. 88|

What bothered him more was that she had turned all the gas on in her kitchen, but not lit any of them. 88|88|88| He opened all the windows.

There had been a water leak, a shelf had collapsed, there was mess everywhere, and flour all over the lounge floor. ??? :??:

Hub was there because it has also become clear that some of Cecile’s so-called ‘friends’ seem to be stealing from her, and she is too confused to know. So he had previously got the police involved, and they brought along their vulnerable persons social worker. Ha! – we hope this is sending a strong message to those involved. They had better watch their step. Not enough evidence to convict, of course … but it is now on the police file |-|.

In the middle of all this, another social worker turned up to do an assessment. He could not have timed it better,


amid all the muddle and chaos and concerned people. Hub said he did an excellent job, handled it professionally and tactfully, and actually persuaded Cecile to go for a few days’ rest into a residential home. Then he found her a place, and took her, and Hub visited the next day, to find her safe and warm and happily tucking into her lunch.

There are still a lot of loose ends, which will take time … but sometimes, crises can be catalysts for good!




  1. Poor old sole its ok living longer if you can stay capable mentally and physically and your pushed to do that at ninety, eighty five will do me if i can last that


  2. I am glad Cecile has been placed somewhere that can look after her – it sounds very alarming her leaving the gas on etc and having her money stolen and everything 😦 I do hope she will be ok! Her confused antics sound similar to my dad’s…. Though luckily he confined himself to the inside of the house and didn’t go out wandering….

    Fingers crossed and many prayers that the ghastly you know whos keep quiet and leave you all in peace… and that the gate prevails….


    1. It is indeed, Shimon. Although, having been through so much with my own parents, who were loved and cared for, there is no doubt in my mind that very often the situation of the elderly is made much worse by their stubborn insistence on staying independent for as long as possible, even though it is obvious that they can no longer cope, and lurch from crisis to crisis, creating a great deal of worry for their families. I am hoping I have learned some valuable lessons for my own old age!


      1. It is true what you say, Gillyk. But often these old people are acting intuitively, in the hope of saving their dignity. The feel so threatened, that it is hard for them to see the situation objectively.


      2. I agree, Shimon – I could see that in my parents, especially my mother. My father was much more rational, and much better able to look for solutions, rather than cling obstinately to a situation which was no longer possible. I hope I’m more like him when I’m old!


  3. We live longer, but alas if the mind goes and there’s no close family then it is tough indeed.But she sounds like my mother in law,such a strong character,
    they trust the wrong people and are suspicious of the good ones!Tragic hell for anyone involved.


    1. she’s had a very hard life, sold as a slave child and had to work like a donkey all her life. It would be so good if she could finish up somewhere nice and reasonably comfortable. She deserves it!


  4. That poor demented lady, with no family to care for her.
    In her winter years without comfort or friends.
    God is watching all your good works, and you and Hub will be rewarded, gillyk.
    How I hope there can be found a safe haven for her, but soon.
    A pox on the neighbours!


  5. How lucky Cecille was to have you as the neighbour, and how lucky it didn’t end up with something more serious happening. My friends Mum started leaving the gas on and nearly had a fire had it not been for a neighbour popping in. I can’t believe the social worker was thinking of sending her home, crazy or what. A similar thing with money happened to Dad in that step mum took dads money (its quit common with Altzheimers that they want money) and she must have given it to some cares as it dissapeared, all £250. She said she never touched it but Dads top note had how much he had on it and we found that in her bag. Vry worrying:)


    1. It is such a worry, when the elderly just can’t look after themselves any longer and aren’t safe, but don’t understand this. I don’t think there are any easy answers, it would seem.


    1. The social worker is thinking of letting her go back home … aarrgghh!!! what is he thinking of?!! And her friends have discovered that all the money she left in the house is missing. One person in particular is coming under more and more suspicion, but as I said, there is no evidence so far.


      1. She does have Christian friends who keep an eye on her, and she’s a regular at the local pub, where they look after her and she eats her main meal each day. But I would be much happier if I knew she was being looked after and that there was some kind of protection against the vultures trying to get her money. Hub is going to see her lawyer to see if any of these sharks have persuaded her to sign over her house in her will. Trouble is, the lawyer might be one of the sharks!


  6. Cecille is very lucky to have you in her life. It’s very concerning just how vulnerable old people are. As for the neighbours…as you say grrrrrrrrrr. Nothing more annoying that annoying neighbours!x


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